Important Insight to Infidelity

Humans are dynamic people. They are prone to changes in behavior triggered by a multitude of possible stimuli so it’s important to understand that the mere presense of one or more of these warning signs does not automatically mean your spouse is cheating on you. They are however, legitimate indicators that may help you formulate a discussion with your spouse if you already feel there may be infidelity going on.


Marriage counselor, M. Gary Neuman, author of The Truth About Cheating, appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show in a special segment called Why Men Cheat. He revealed that 1 in 2.7 men will cheat and the majority of their wives will never discover their infidelity.

Interestingly, 92% of all men polled in his study, reported that they strayed from their marriages for reasons other than primarily sex. Most reported an “emotional detachment in their marriage”. Tucked away in this fact is a silver lining. It means that most men cheat because they are dissatisfied with some aspect of their marriage. This is good news in the sense that if you can identify problem areas in your marriage, you can work on them and potentially stop infidelity before it starts. Lets face it. Relationships are complicated and they take work. All too often the external influences in our lives can drain us of our energy and we come home to our spouses…we’re tired. We have this expectation that things are tough enough in the world, so our relationships should be an effortless refuge. Understanding that relationships require work on both spouses’ part is the first step in protecting a marriage.